What’s crazy is if you talk to yourself negatively, you’re really competing against yourself, kind of like swimming against an ocean current.
And you’re making things easier for your opponent! WOW, you didn’t think of it that way, did you?
A truly competitive athlete makes things harder for their opponents, NOT themselves!
Whether we realize it, or not, we are constantly talking to ourselves. If we would actually pay attention to our thoughts, we’d see that sometimes we’re pretty mean to ourselves.
Why the negative self-talk? Why make it easier for our opponents? There are a number of reasons but one big reason is:
Maybe you (or someone real close to you…lol) is extremely competitive! Maybe you (or someone real close to you…lol) is a perfectionist! I know you want to get things right, do things right, and even look good! Right?
So, then when you don’t perform the way you want to, you get negative with yourself. You might even look for something or someone else to blame, maybe Mom and Dad, to get negative at that, or them.
If you do this often enough it becomes a habit, like every time you miss a shot, you get mad at yourself.
When you think about it, that’s not being very smart, is it? We both know what we think, our thoughts, and what we say, our words, and what we do, our actions, have a ton of control over how things play out in competitions and in our life.
So, why are we putting so much emphasis, so much thought, so much emotion, so much conversation into what we DON’T really want??
Seems a little backwards to me.
A significant amount of negative self-talk occurs in everybody, and eventually, it becomes a habit (or pattern). The good news is that any unhealthy habit or pattern can be replaced with a healthy one.